Being friends first then dating
I am so happy that I started things slow with him because it truly took the pressure off of each of us.
This friendship-first approach has fundamentally changed my understanding of dating and relationships.
Of course I had my cute little relationships in middle school where I thought I was in love, but really, I had no idea what love even was or why I was in the relationship in the first place.
This is all because I was pressed to believe that just simply being in a relationship made everything better.
We explored new neighborhoods, meandered through parks, and people-watched out of a coffee shop’s balcony.
The next week, I hosted a board game night and invited her so she could meet some of my friends.These relationships, like the ones in middle school, were given no thought before I entered into them.We are so quick to jump to the opportunity of having a boyfriend in our lives, that we end up making a decision that is not what’s best for us.I never thought once about whether this boy was even right for me.