Dad dating after divorce
In part one of this series, I outlined some of the common challenges of life after divorce for men.Now that you have a sense of some of the ways you may need to adjust to a life after divorce, it’s time to switch gears and highlight some of the opportunities this new chapter in your life has in store for you. Yes, life after divorce for men can be positive and full of hope and opportunity.I literally lived as the parent and then I lived as the rock star single guy, but neither of those two met.I can only be thankful I was able to hide my mistakes behind their nap time. So many dads don’t have that and I talk about the fact that when you screw up and when you’ve got a kid that’s 11, 12 years old, they’re going to see everything you do.One place to start is to consider what you want from dating. Just make sure it’s your guy (instinct) and not your johnson.For example, are you looking for a steady, monogamous relationship or do you want to take your time and play the field? The reality is, you may have more baggage than you realize after divorce. Relationship with your Kid(s) If there is any upside to having a shared parenting schedule it may be that you will have concentrated time with your kids.It can be a time for you to do the things that you always wanted to do to grow and enjoy life.If you get anything out of this article, I hope it’s this: life after divorce can be filled with new opportunities, growth, and love. I truly hope you find these suggestions helpful as you start your new life after divorce.
Fortunately, during this entire several year disaster, I was able to keep my kids separate from my personal life.
It could be that you’ve been considering divorce for many years and you’ve done much of that self-work before you and your spouse actually separate.
In this situation you may be ready to date far sooner than someone who was surprised and shocked with the serving of divorce papers.
Even being done with the legal process isn’t necessarily a good guide – if your divorce is in litigation then that could go on for a long time.
Some states have mandatory separation periods prior to divorce and you may not want to wait that long before dating.
It is a very unfortunate thing that over the course of those early years that I made some of the mistakes that I made and I hate that. If I had a man or men in my life speaking to me, saying, “You need to really reconsider what you’re doing here,” I’m convinced I would not have made some of those choices.