Dating a spirit girl
In the summer of ’86, after college graduation, I found myself attracted to a fellow counselor at the camp where I had spent 11 summers.
The choices we face give us an opportunity to affect our destiny.If you could go back and do your life over, would you? There are some moments in my past where I wish I had known what I know now, but I realize that if I had made different choices or acted any differently, I would not be where I am today.I don’t know where I would be (either physically or emotionally), but I do know that who I am and what I have done with my life is a result of the all of moments I have experienced over the last 46 years – every last one of them, good and bad.I had spent the first two decades or so of my life trying to be the perfect daughter, the smart one, the girl looking for a boyfriend/husband because that is what was expected.
There were moments along the way when I glimpsed the true me, but what I saw was so unfamiliar, so scary, that I retreated into what was safe and comfortable.Each choice we make affects the course of each day in our life and even when we aren’t happy with what happens to us, we can’t look back and wish we had done things differently.We can only look forward and dream of what will happen next. Seventeen years ago today, in the summer of ’93, I went looking for myself.I was able to be open to the possibility that a relationship didn’t have to look like what other people had – I didn’t need to have a boyfriend or husband to have love.