Dating a black dude
Perhaps the black men I would have preferred dating were not interested, already taken, or in their own interracial relationships, but the ones I was dealing with were making the dating game more tough than it should have been.
On the rare occasion that I met a black man that treated me the way I was accustomed to and exhibited some of the characteristics I was looking for, I noticed his hesitation in discussing marriage although it was a topic that came up in every interracial relationship I had.
Through my findings it seems as though black women aren’t actually opposef to dating outside of their race.
Part of the dilemma lies in women of color thinking that men outside of their race won’t be attracted to them.
He held all the doors open, treated me like a lady, and paid for dinner.
We discussed a variety of topics and he seemed genuinely interested in what I had to say (a rare find in the dating pool of the late ’90s).
Regina King recently raised the argument that we as black women still have not become completely comfortable dating outside our race.
I recently did a survey on a group of black women regarding their reasons for not dating men who are not of color.
Some of the black men I dated came from broken homes (just like me) so they didn’t understand my desire to get married and they didn’t find it necessary.
We didn’t date long, considering we were young and in school, but he set the precedent for all of my interracial relationships.
After dating more of these men I noticed a trend: All of my relationships with white men involved partners who took me out on actual dates, openly confessed their commitments to me, and tossed around the idea of marriage.
Interracial dating has been one of the biggest conversations within the black community.
Black men have made it no secret their liking to white women.
I always found black men very attractive yet I hadn’t really dated any (and not because I didn’t want to).