Dating blowing off
As much as I’d like to say otherwise, the answer is yes.
The sad fact is, too many otherwise intelligent and sensitive women spend enormous amounts of energy excusing, explaining and otherwise rationalizing almost perfectly transparent male behavior—behavior that, if looked at objectively and honestly, means only one thing.
Herewith, then, in the interest of promoting peace and lasting love between the sexes, is a guide to what men do when they’re edging away, as well as a sampling of really tortured explanations women come up with to explain the behavior.
Read on for a reality check: Excuses women use to explain his behavior: Because the non-returned phone call has become the most obvious and frequent example of the lukewarm dater, the range of tortured explanations that have sprung up around it is impressive.
But in most cases like this, it hasn’t really been string instruments and flowers and talks about trips to Paris, has it? More than 24 hours, though, and he hasn’t called back?
And far be it from me to cast aspersions on the booty call. Reality check: “One of the great truths about men,” says my friend Joe, who some of his old girlfriends refer to as “The Sphinx” for his unblinking non-responsiveness to most of his dates, “is this: We are not complicated. I didn’t handle the matter by calling her up and hemming and hawing through a thoughtful ‘maybe not’ speech.
They say, and I quote: ‘I think I must just really intimidate him’, and ‘He doesn’t call when he has free time because he doesn’t want to look like he has free time’, and ‘He knows I’m The One but just doesn’t want to grapple with the idea of settling down yet.’” Reality check: Now, there have been times when I’ve been dating a woman and it’s taken me a day or so to return her calls.