Dating powerful woman
It hasn’t been easy and as we navigate the road ahead, and especially as we negotiate a family of our own, I just hope that we stay strong in our love and in each other.
It has gotten us this far, hopefully it will take us a lot further.
James’ youngest child refused to meet me and in no uncertain terms told him she wasn’t interested in having a “big sister.” Even his ex-wife jumped on the bandwagon and was totally against him having his children anywhere near me.
These days, while most still don’t agree with our relationship, they’ve come to accept it.
When a man goes out with a woman, he’s not as concerned with whether she’s articulate and on track to make partner at the law firm. Listen, I’ve spent my life chasing after women I’ve intellectually admired. They’re not wrong for seeing things I could change. But if that go-getter side ends up emasculating your man, or makes him feel insignificant, or second-guessed, he’s not really getting what he wants out of a partner. ” it’s pretty difficult for us to enjoy our role as men.
That’s what women want in men and they assume it’s of equal importance to them. Men DO value intelligence, but they also want from their girlfriend what they CAN’T get from their business associates. If he finds himself constantly hearing all the things he needs to change, he may just determine that he wants a bright woman who is less challenging. But a huge reason I’m with my wife is because she spends her time loving and supporting me, not challenging me on everything from movie tickets, to travel plans, to wake up times. This doesn’t mean you should play dumb, or be weak and needy, no more than the nice guy should start acting like a jackass.
My older man doesn’t have a few years on me, and if you’re thinking he has a decade on me, good guess, but add an ‘s’ to the end of that. As a matter of fact, I always thought these relationships were a bit weird and incestuous, but when I met James three years ago I knew instantly that he was someone I wanted to be with.
So when I hear a woman talk about how “direct” she is, the first thing I think is: “She’s tactless.” I wrote about this in an article for entitled “Are You Honest… ” Self-proclaimed “direct” people often tell their dates what they think about them even if the date didn’t ask.
It’s been a tough road trying to get our loved ones to accept our relationship.
My father wouldn’t speak to me for months and having him and James in the same room literally became a dangerous situation at one point.
CEOs, doctors, lawyers, hedge fund mangers, business owners, professional athletes, actors, etc… But right behind my good traits are a series of bad traits.
When I am not interested in them, they work for the relationship day and night. Anyone reading this blog can see that: The flip side of being bright is being opinionated.To some, our relationship is temporary lust with no staying power, but I think the smartest decision I’ve made in my twenties so far was dating an older man.It has forced me to focus, be more mature and really take stock of what I want for my future, something many twenty-somethings don’t grasp until maybe their 30s…maybe.And how many men out there are with women right now that they have a couple years on?