Push and pull method dating
We’ve already seen some examples of PUA push-pull in other articles so far.
For example, when you call a girl for the first time, and you don’t ask her out, and you get off the phone first, you are practicing push-pull.
Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. Once we have the ability to see hot and cold for what it is, we're less likely to suffer its negative effects.
It's long been the rule that when dating someone whose behavior is marked by hot and cold reactivity, you're standing on shaky ground.
On the other hand, you can’t refuse to chase, either. And if they’re attractive, well, she’s not going to wait on you.
Women expect men to take the lead in dating, and unless her attraction level for you is through the roof, waiting for her is really just giving other guys an opportunity to swoop in ahead of you. Fortunately, there’s is a solution to this catch-22, and that solution is push pull routines.
the point on you dont want to show interest..overtly...it seems julien or tyler goes with directly letting the girl know whats up,,,as seen in infields..eg..using hand of god or makeout.being physcial....how du u go phycsical or direct while also not being overt..?
We’ve all had the experience of chasing a girl – and we all know how that ends.
Chasing doesn’t work because chasing subcommunicates lower value: if you’re chasing her, that must mean she’s higher value than you, otherwise she would be chasing you.This phase lures you into the hopes of the possibility of romance.Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you'll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.Get out of your comfort zone and you’ll probably discover that you have much more latitude than you think you do.
One minute you're high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you're frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don't understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games.
She is receiving mixed messages: “He seems to like me, he seems to enjoy my company, but he didn’t ask me out. ” Or when you invite a girl to a group activity: on one hand, you’re asking her out, but on the other it doesn’t feel like a date, so she doesn’t know where she stands.